How do you deal with the other parent outdoing you on Bdays Xmas etc?

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How do you deal with the other parent outdoing you on Bdays Xmas etc?

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Calling all Coparents!.

It's become very obvious over the almost 3 years we split.
Cheyenne-lee

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It's not about you? Sorry if it sounds harsh but aslong as the kiddo is happy that's all that matters right. You keep doing you your baby will love you REGARDLESS. xxx
Kimberley

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I don't get this. Surely its not a competition I would just be happy that the other parent actually bothers and buys them presents. Some kids don't get anything from the other parent and it's heart breaking trust me
Vicki

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Why should it matter? As long as the child is feeling loved. The other parent is entitled to spend as little/much as they want on their child- just as you are.
Lorraine

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Let them, saves u buying all the big and expensive gifts. My parents did this and we always new. We also understood how crappy it made my mum feel till she started playing the game. Mum gave us all SHE could and that to us was everything x
Katie

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Mine does it but I can't and he knows it, so I just sit happy in the knowledge my little girl has what she wants and needs. Her dad throws money at her and she said to me it's because he wants her to love him more than me. she's 8!
Cathy

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I don't, usually I spent the most. But still it's between £50-100. We don't go overboard. The focus is on making memories not collecting material stuff. My kids ask us both for different things anyway. We compromise on plans for Christmas like this year I'm doing Christmas day on boxing day as we have my fiancés children too. I'm not a massive fan of Christmas, and I spread out the celebrations over the week.
Emma

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Children will remember who was there, what you did with them, time spent, not gifts! My childhood memories of Christmas is the smell of turkey as we wake up christmas morning, the games we played, the food and the people round the table and tree! Can probably remember a handful of gifts brought for me! Dont stress about it x
Amy

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I don’t care in the slightest I just see it as at least he gets everything he wants 🤷🏼‍♀️ my son knows we have more children and more things to pay out for and his dad just has him so it’s fine 🙂 try not to see it as being outdone and think of it as they are getting what they want regardless of wether you buy it or someone else etc if that makes sense . These occasions are all about time spent together not what material things are bought anyway xxx
Kayla

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Just let them crack on with it, you can not buy a child’s love, they’ll appreciate any of the presents but mostly your presence, your time, your attention & your love, you just buy what you can afford and under no circumstances do you put yourself into debt to have that competition with someone who clearly has no idea how to earn a child’s love the proper way
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