What if you sensed that, if you died with work unfinished, that your kids would just chuck everything that didn't have royalties coming in and good riddance?
A Mother's Day bomb has kept me from my novel for weeks to focus on relationships - How do YOU talk yourself out of being blindsided by close range relationships (kids, etc) that upset your commitment?
Everyone wants their family & friends & fans to care about and appreciate artistic pursuits - not just to say - oh, great work (or worse, criticize it unconstructively without acknowledging the talent or the purpose) - please share how you got previously unsupportive loved ones to care or to let you share your work with them.
Is there a "match-making" service for writers?
Is there a "match-making" service for writers?
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Likeleli
Daughter still very young to understand but things were very tense with hubby as we do not share this passion. We worked things out, he read my work when I ask him to and gives feedback.
He loves soccer, wanted to be a player while growing up but things didn't work out, he pursued something else. I watch matches with him when he invites me, and let him go to the stadium and watch.
I think we need to find balance and appreciate what they love, support them and it will be given back?
He loves soccer, wanted to be a player while growing up but things didn't work out, he pursued something else. I watch matches with him when he invites me, and let him go to the stadium and watch.
I think we need to find balance and appreciate what they love, support them and it will be given back?
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Tyronica
I have relatives that simply don't care and I'm not going to be hard pressed about it. I will continue to do what I do with or without their help. Don't let it hinder you. For some people they want proof like seeing you sell the book or whatever it is that makes it real in their eyes but you'd be spending more time trying to prove yourself rather than what you really want to be doing which is writing.
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Amanda
My ex didn't care about my writing. I bought him the Xbox games he wanted, tried playing it with him, everything -- hoping that one day he'd see me. He never did. One of the many reasons the start of my post was my EX.
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Michael
I have never gotten support with writing. Love, everything else, not encouragement for my one passion. Now that I've been published, they still refuse to read me. My wife of six years does not read even my short rants on Facebook. You ask how to avoid being blindsided? By that word's definition, you cannot. Frankly, my dear...you know the rest of the quote. I do not write for posterity, nor fame and riches. I do not write to impress women, my family, or publishers. (Though I will rewrite and edit like hell for those guys.) I write because I am a writer - I have no choice.
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Jane
I've been a full-time writer for decades. My relatives brag about my successes, but don't read anything. I've finally seen this as a comment on them and not me. The only matchmaking service such as you describe for writers is in a therapists office. You can't change your family, but you can determine the source of you need for approval from them--and deal with it.
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Brittany
I'm lucky enough to have a husband that fully supports and encourages my writing. My son carries notebooks around already at the age of two. Before meeting my husband, there was no support for this passion. Only my desire to write for me. My mother would say mean things about it. My dad never really said anything other than that I couldn't bring notebooks to family gatherings because it was rude. Don't worry about proving it to anyone. Just write because you love it and things will go so much better. Finding friends that have the same love can be helpful. If you ever want to chat about writing, you are welcome to PM me.
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Meliha
Yes, it's very hard if you don't have the support of your loved ones. I was never counting on it because I had a plan. The plan did NOT work out even in the slightest. Long story short, I am online looking for support among people I don't even know. That's the only idea I've had, so that's the only idea I can share with you. You do get a lot less writing done, but that's just the way. Something you have to make peace with. Best wishes
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Turtle
You know, you CAN leave your work to a friend who agrees to look after it. It's called a "literary executor." It can be separate from the rest of your estate.
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Jeremy
I don’t care what gets done to anything unpublished. If I’m able to foster a healthy and loving relationship with my son he could burn it all when I’m gone for all I care. (And, hey, if he gets some cathartic release from that then more power to him.)
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Bryn
Leave to a friend as literary executor if you are lucky enough to have a friend who is committed to your published work (this was always hard to find for writers, even the classics). I have a sister I can safely leave mine with, but if not for her I have nobody to look after my books when I am dead, and that truly scares me. There are now digital set-ups to take care of your digital self after death: I don't know whether this will lead to a real option for independently published authors.
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Carmen
My daughter-in-law has my passion. If anything, I’d ask her to work with what I leave and let her finish, then add her own stories. My husband and sons support me 100% as do many of my friends and family. They’ve know for ages that publishing my first book was my dream. Now, that it’s happened, I’m the most surprised I have 20 publications in 3 years.