I have a question for anyone with experience in more traditional routes

[Guest]

I’ve recently had a breakthrough in my writing career, and I find myself attending meetings with marketing reps, editorial staff, etc.

They love what I’m working on, my output, and they see great potential in it. They’re throwing marketing at it. They had amazing things to say, but my social anxiety had me leaving that meeting feeling like it was a total fail. I. Am. Awkward. It takes me a great deal of time to get used to people and feel confident in that sort of setting, and before that happens, I will stick my foot in my mouth every single time. Long moments where I blank and can’t speak. Odd, awkward questions. I tell myself I won’t do it, but it’s unavoidable, and therapy is too expensive

So my question is: how much does that factor into the industry? And does anyone have any tips, perhaps articles or book suggestions on etiquette and expectations around the social/ networking side of that?

TIA!

[Kristin]

The things that helps with my social anxiety is rehearsing the moment beforehand, being in the situation previously, breathing exercises, and mental imagery. As long as I can picture the potential of the situation I’m usually much better.

[Amanda]

I don’t believe in my ability to actual publish a book or even get close, but that being said, I have spent an embarrassing amount of time worrying about exactly what you asked. Do I have to talk to people and take pictures or go to meetings and interviews?!

I don’t have any advice but I am super proud of you for making it this far in your journey!!

[Nav]

We're all different, but I'm not a natural public speaker. In fact, my fizzy brain would rather be alone. I found speaking very loud and clear was easier than using my naturally feeble shy voice. I dominate the room with my voice. The mind feels open and positive. After a short time you drift to the level of the room an equal.

But it's okay to be a bit nervous anyway. It means you're easily approachable.

Be yourself.

[Kyle]

It's time to grow. You have to make a concerted decision to grow up, to be present, to be worthy of that which you receive and create. Do Tony Robbins Personal Power---I did 1 and 2, repeat doing them for years---he teaches specific self confidence exercises/tricks/tips.

You have to step into your own power----maybe write down questions or thoughts on index cards, practice in front of the mirror, join something like Toastmasters. But it's YOUR life that will degrade if you don't learn. No one else. Someone will take your place if you don't learn how to claim your place.