Let's talk weddings — Did you or are you having a wedding gift list?

[Guest]

— Is this a positive or negative thing today (and no I am not getting married )

[Hala]

We gave people the choice whether to buy off a list or give gift vouchers. Most people gave money because in my culture that’s what I’d done. A few bought gifts that weren’t off a list.

[Claire]

We didn’t but we already lived together. I didn’t want people to feel that they could or should only buy from that list (if they wanted to) and everyone’s budget is different.

[Shelly]

We put a little poem in the invite. The gist of it being that the recipient being there was present enough but if they really want to give a gift, to give cash.

[Megan]

I'm not engaged even yet but the BF and I do talk about when we get married and what our plans are for it when the time comes. We will be letting guests know gifts are not necessary but if they'd like to give something we'd ask for a contribution to our honeymoon fund.

[Karen]

I wish we had...but we got 3 toasters, 5 electric carving knives (new at the time in 1979) & two kettles. And more salad servers than I'd ever use.

So, yes, it's helpful. But don't do an expensive list.

[Julie]

We did, because so many guests asked what we wanted and we already had our house so I didn’t want 4 kettles. I ensured we had lots of things at a lower price point like a dustpan and brush from Argos for £5 too x

[Anne]

We did a small list through prezola but also it allowed you to add cash gifts to put towards honeymoon champagne, and other experiences (it all is one cash fund transferred but for guests who don’t like just giving cash it kinda feels like a gift).

[Lyndsay]

Well why ask the question? I'm sure everyone would support you in your list if you were to get married x

[Claire]

We asked for nothing but for those who insisted cash or holiday vouchers. We just wanted people there (we eloped to Gretna with 46 people) and knew it would cost people for travel, hotel etc

[Janet]

I didn't have a list. We were already living together and had the essentials. We did get gifted a set of pans which I love. We'll used and still going strong after 21 yrs.

[Katy]

When I got married we just asked for money, we already lived together and had most things.

You can ask for stuff but without knowing people's budgets and depending on what you have on the list it can be hard for them to choose what to get you x

[Margaret]

When I was married in early 70s you did not do wedding list for gifts.

[Ami]

We got married last year, and asked instead of gifts as already have our home for people to make a donation to cancer research, raised £750 was great. X

[Joanne]

No list didn't expect anything as people had to buy a holiday to come to ours but I did say cash for honeymoon if people asked.

[Vera]

I did. It was John Lewis back in 1998. I also made sure I chose items my guests could afford as everyone's budget differs.