Do you think back on how you introduced solids and wonder if that’s why your little one became picky?

[Guest]

Moms of young ones. Do you think back on how you introduced solids and wonder if that’s why your little one became picky? I did a mix of purées and baby led weaning. I keep blaming myself right now and my heart hurts because of it.

[Rose]

I feel mom guilt all the time because I feel like I failed my child somewhere down the line.

My little one would eat puréed foods really well as a baby and from one day to the next be stopped liking food and will only eat specific food.

[Maela]

Don’t! Not your fault!

I did BLW with my first with ZERO puree, never spoon feeding and always promoted self feeding and offered 100 foods by 12mo…and she still ended up selective (no veggies, little meat & fruit). My second is 10mo and same pattern, full BLW and refused most veggies & fruit from day 1! I make family meal all the same, we eat all together and zero pressure, I am literally BLW textbook (plus both me and hubby eat everything!) and yet I got picky kids!

I know where you are coming from, mum guilt is so absurd. I remember blaming myself for introducing carbs to my now toddler, thinking that if I had only offered veggies & fruit at first she would like it now. It is all in our heads.

One mistake I maybe did is stopping to offer a wide variety when my first started showing pickiness signs. I have now reintroduced most things even if she does not touch them! Give yourself grace, they are humans and have their temperament, taste, like and dislikes regardless

[Tika]

I absolutely do because I know I wasn’t consistent.

I was so exhausted at that time working nights and in school I just did what worked of he didn’t want a food I didn’t keep offering it I love food and cooking and it’s one of the ways I show my love and I hate that I can’t love on my own child that way.

[Saba]

Not at all, I did the same thing with both of my kids and one is super picky and the other isn’t.

[Daniella]

Yes! I think as a first time mom I was terrified of her choking. I gave very very tiny pieces and tried to feed her most of the time. And I watch videos of her as a baby and in hindsight I can see how much she wanted to try the things I was eating and be more independent. It absolutely kills me that I could have set her back. She barely wants to feed herself now at 3.

I think we have to be gentle with ourselves though. None of these kids came with instructions. And we are human and learning.

With the best of intentions. We can do our best to support their growth moving forward.