Just venting because I'm an emotional wreck

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Just venting because I'm an emotional wreck

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So my son is the picky eater (2y).. but i still try. This morning i tried adding to his breakfast octopus shaped cooked hot dogs and he was having fun taking bites of them playing that he was eating the octopus' legs and head... and so i thought it was cute and took a video and sent it to my parent's..the plate was filled with various options of food... my sister then sends me a text saying that i should stop sending my parent's videos because they're over there talking crap abt how why am i giving him so much food, its such a waste of money, that i already know how he is why am wasting food like that, that he's just going to taste the food then go in the trash, blah blah blah"....

It broke my heart to hear that .... because what i thought was a fun/cute video of my son ACTUALLY eating became such a negative thing. Like shoot am i supposed to give up and not feed him at all because "i know how he is"? NO my job is to offer if he's hungry he will eat. But i HAVE TO try!...

I'm just so upset and hurt
Zartasha

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Post by Zartasha »

Mommy, u are doing good !! Do not be broken because of this. People will always have something to say!! No matter who!! I do what is best for my kids as a Mother- do not let anyone let you down because what is best for you and your child !! Keep up ur work and you don’t share with anyone .. i wish my daughter ate octopus shape or any shape food lol .. ur doing amazing
Shireen

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Post by Shireen »

You’re doing great. Send the videos to us instead so we can celebrate with you
Cheryln

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Post by Cheryln »

That’s horrible that they would say that knowing that he’s a picky eater. Should you just not feed him?

I’d be petty and stop sending ANY videos and pictures of your son and any other kids you may have. If they ask, I’d say, “Since you seem to criticize how I feed my son, you’ll probably criticize anything else I do with him/the kids. So I’d rather send you nothing.”

Keep doing what you’re doing. Exposing him to new foods is the best way to help him.
Priya

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Post by Priya »

Moments like these have taught me important life lessons, the one here being that not everyone takes pleasure in our small moments of joy. Me and my husband also scrutinize every photo and video before sending to our parents now, knowing that those will get judged or forwarded to our extended families.
Sally

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Post by Sally »

1. You are doing amazing and your boy is lucky to have you as his mommy
2. Sometimes people don’t react the way we want them to when we share things that make us happy. Their reaction is not in your control. But don’t let it spoil your feeling of success (easier said than done, but for what my opinion is worth, it was a success that he ate it!)
3. Your parents might be old school or grew up with food insecurity and they are having trouble moving beyond it. Waste bothers my grandma, but she grew up dirt poor so eats whatever is put on the table. Everyone’s relationship with food is SO different. It doesnt mean it’s OK to talk crap about something you clearly were happy with, but sometimes we have to give people the benefit of the doubt, or tip toe through the tulips by avoid conversation pieces that we know might trigger them.
4. Keep on doing YOU. Parenting is done best when you follow your own instincts and do what feels right. Sounds like youre giving your child every opportunity to learn and grow. BRAVO mama!
Sarah

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Post by Sarah »

You are doing great! I feel like we are always playing with food over here, and it is exhausting. You should celebrate! My kid never eats hot dogs.... I wish she would. That's a huge win, and you should be proud!
Ml ~

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Post by Ml ~ »

I do the same my 2 yr old daughter doesn’t eat anything but like 4 foods but I fill up her plate with various foods so that she haves options in hopes that she will eventually want to try it all out and yes it’s most of the time goes in the trash but that’s OK I will do anything for my daughter. You keep doing what you think is best to help your baby only you know what’s best
Patricia

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Post by Patricia »

You are doing a great job, Momma! It is so fulfilling to see our little picky eaters actually eat the things we prepare for them, so don't be heart broken. Keep on doing what you are doing, and if they talk crap about it, then go ahead, but know that you are doing this for your child and not for other people whether its family or not.
Christine

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Post by Christine »

Everybody thinks it's easy to feed a kid. My mom wants drove an hour and 15 minutes to my house to show me how easy it was to feed my baby. Food. My aunt told me she would have loved to come over the house to feed my child cuz it is not that hard to feed a child... It's not hard to feed a child who eats.

We have learned so much in the years between when our parents were raising us and now. You are doing amazing. People judge what they can't understand and our parents are not immune to that. I am so sorry, and I really hope you find supportive community that helps you overcome their judgment
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